By: By Murray A. Mann and Rose Mary Bombela-Tobias
For the AMightyRiver Mentee Series Checklist we developed the following checklist to review yourself as a mentee.
My Career Mentor Board of Directors includes:
* Formal and informal mentors
* Males and females
* Leaders in my company and industry.
* Experts from cross-functional segments in my organization.* Peers with specialized skills and experiences.
* Individuals, company based organizations, and external professional associations.
* Formal company mentorship programs.
* Industry peers from outside my company.
* Knowledge experts.
* Finding mentors/being a responsible mentee is one of the most important growth steps I can take.
* This specific mentoring relationship is a high priority for me.
* I’ve been clear with my mentor on why I want to meet with him/her.
* I’ve proposed one or more goals to work on with the help of my mentor.
* I’ll recognize when I’ve reached my goal(s).
* I feel good about the focus of this relationship and what I’m doing in it.
* This relationship is a good use of my time.
* From time to time I check in to see if we should change our focus in some way.
* Once I’ve accomplished my goal(s), I’m willing to see the relationship shift focus or perhaps end for the time being.
* I communicate in the ways (in person, phone, email, mail) we agreed.
* I get back to my mentor in the timeframe we agreed.
* I don’t communicate more often than we agreed unless it’s a special circumstance.
* I’m an effective listener and remember what my mentor tells me.
* I ask appropriate questions.
* I share adequate information about myself.
* I monitor my nonverbal language to be sure it’s conveying what I want it to.
* I invite my mentor to give me suggestions for how I can communicate better.
* I try out my mentor’s suggestions on communication as soon as possible.
* I’ve talked about the topics of trust and confidentiality with my mentor.
* I’m beginning to trust my mentor more and more.
* I’m becoming less guarded than when we first got together.
* I share important information about myself with my mentor.
* My mentor seems to trust me more and more.
* I welcome and keep in confidence the information he/she shares with me.
* My mentor can count on me to be honest.
* He/She can count on me to follow through on my promises.
* I avoid any trust-breaking behaviors such as canceling appointments without compelling reasons, talking negatively about others, or making excuses if I don’t follow through.
* I’m willing to forgive some mistakes my mentor makes because my trust in him/her is strong.
* I take responsibility for scheduling our meetings.
* I like all or most of our meeting locations.
* I’ve checked to be sure my mentor likes our meeting locations.
* I like the length of our meetings.
* I’ve checked to be sure my mentor likes the length of our meetings.
* I’m satisfied with the way we conduct our meetings.
* I’ve checked to be sure my mentor is satisfied with how we conduct our meetings.
* I’ve checked to see if my mentor likes the style and frequency of our communications.
* I’m working on one or more measurable goals with the help of my mentor.
* I make it easy for my mentor to help me develop.
* I take the lead on identifying interesting learning experiences I can try.
* I welcome my mentor’s suggestions of learning experiences for me.
* I do at least one learning activity in between our mentoring meetings.
* I report the results of my learning to my mentor.
* I’ve made significant progress toward my goal(s) since starting to meet with my
* I’m making notable progress in my ability to be mentored.
* My mentor knows and is satisfied with my progress.
* I celebrate my progress.
* I have discussed with my mentor how and how often I want positive feedback.
* I receive the right amount of positive feedback from my mentor.
* I discussed my mentor the way I’d like to receive constructive feedback.
* I continue to ask my mentor for constructive feedback.
* When I receive positive feedback, I express my thanks.
* When I receive positive feedback, I use the information to reinforce my efforts.
* When I receive constructive feedback, I’m usually non-defensive.
* When I receive constructive feedback, I take immediate steps to apply it.
* I remember to give my mentor positive feedback about his/her mentoring and other
* (If agreed upon) I give my mentor suggestions for improvement.